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(from "Six Years In Sodom: From The Journal Of James Hartline," 9/4/2006, written from the "homosexual stronghold" of Hillcrest in San Diego).

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Equality Alabama Gala - PHB coverage of must-see speech by ally Congressman John Lewis

by: Pam Spaulding

Sun Sep 20, 2009 at 01:19:47 AM EDT


It was an amazing evening with many old and new friends at Equality Alabama's Gala Saturday night. The highlight was keynote speaker Rep. John Lewis (D-GA), who is a native of Troy, Alabama. His played a legendary fearless role in the civil rights struggles of the 60s -- and he is man who believes in LGBT civil equality with equal conviction -- he immediately signed on to DOMA repeal legislation.

This is significant in a day when there is a clear dearth of support in the religious black community; Lewis has the moral standing that a homophobe in the pulpit like Bishop Harry Jackson can never touch. John Lewis took batons to the head, was beaten to unconsciousness multiple times for equality -- courage and moral conviction that Jackson and his fellow charlatans of bigotry are bereft of.

Rep. Lewis spoke eloquently about the simplicity of the government staying out of the lives of gay and lesbian couples -- there is no need to "save" marriage from two people who simply want to love one another and be legally affirmed in the same way that heterosexual couples are when they marry.

But perhaps the most powerful message was to those in the LGBT community who are waiting for equality to come to them -- Lewis charged us to seize the moment, do not accept being told to wait your turn, to demand your rights through your representative, and most of all take personal responsibility -- the message we all heard was loud and clear. Too many LGBTs are in the closet waiting for someone else to do the heavy lifting and LEAD. We are all capable of leading by kicking that closet door open.  The main meat of the speech begins around 5:00 -- and you will want to hear it all. The man had the audience spellbound.

John Lewis could have let someone else take the baton to the head for his rights. He didn't; his rights were too important to him to NOT lead by example. I asked State Rep. Patricia Todd thought of his wake up call to our community. She agreed that there is no excuse for our so-called leaders, our elected representatives who say they are our allies but lack the political spine to do the right thing should watch this speech as required education. But we also noted to one another that even more critical was Lewis's call to you  - those of us who rail about what someone else can do to lead or move the ball forward and don't step up, or take even small steps to be interested in determining the fate of your civil rights. Where is the fire in the belly of our movement? It's not in DC, it's all of you, if you choose to do a tenth, hell, one-hundredth of what John Lewis showed in terms of personal courage to fight for his rights against hostility day and night.

Kate and I spoke briefly to the Congressman to thank him for the inspiring words that energized the room.

 

I asked Rep. Lewis what, as an LGBT person of color can do to encourage more of "us" to come out, to address the issues of faith and reconciliation with one's sexual orientation when there is both hostility toward faith in many slices of the out gay community and denial of the impact of the closet in the black community. As I'm about to deliver the keynote address

at NC Pride next Saturday, I sought his wisdom about the painful conundrum for out POC who trying to make a difference and are getting blasted on all sides. He said that as he travels to conferences he sees more and more out black and gay representation, steady, but still very slowly. He said that the walls are slowly breaking down among pastors who are seeing the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" social policy within the community can not hold sway forever. As more than one person mentioned to me today, the same DADT about homosexuality exists not just in the religious black community, but in the Deep South at large.

More below the fold.

Pam Spaulding :: Equality Alabama Gala - PHB coverage of must-see speech by ally Congressman John Lewis
Blogger, ally and Equality Alabama board member Kathy McMullen of Birmingham Blues and others are just as frustrated as I am over the lack of LGBT community engagement on the political issues that profoundly affect them.

She says when she asks socially out, but professionally closeted people about getting active in the most politically benign way -- showing up at events like the educational sessions at Saturday's conference -- they show interest then balk and bail -- they are not interested in being "political" or an "activist."

I have to tell you -- what is our problem, people? John Lewis wanted his rights badly enough to take personal responsibility to act on it. There are many in the LGBT community -- take the folks in Washington State and Maine right now -- who have their shoulders to the wheel because so much is at stake.

It's pretty clear, however, that if there's not a galvanizing issue of that magnitude, in most places people would rather show up to a rally, party or Pride event than write a letter to a state legislator, knock on a few doors to speak to neighbors about the fact that there are no protections for state employees, or heaven forbid, personally meet with their elected officials (if they even know who they are).

What's wrong with this picture? I am asking this in all seriousness because I truly do not understand the inertia and disinterest in playing a more active role (at any level) for their rights. Is there the fire in the belly? Will the people who attend the National Equality March really go home and participate in the more mundane but equally important ways to move equality forward with the same level of enthusiasm that motivates and energizes them to go to DC in the first place? I'm just tossing it out there for discussion. And do watch the Lewis video to help put your answers into context with what he has to say.

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Thank you for attending Equality Weekend 2009!
Thank you so much for being a part of Equality Weekend 2009.  It was so nice to meet you and Catherine.  Congressman Lewis was inspirational and had a message that was perfectly on point.  If you want more information on Equality Alabama please visit www.equalityalabama.org.

Pam and Kate, thank you so much for being part of Equality Weekend!
I'm so glad you were back with us this year.  Pam, your seminars were fun and informative.  Great post -- I'm going to link to it so Birmingham folks who missed the event can read it and hear the Congressman's words.  He was truly inspiring.

It was great to see both of you!

"If the apocalypse comes... beep me." -- Buffy Summers


"Keep your eye on the prize"

As soon as I watched the video I immediately checked to see if Rep. Lewis was a cosponsor of the UAFA.  And yes he is.  Thank you Rep. Lewis.

Great Speech.

   


Great Speech
This was a fantastic and inspiring speech.  I have been working against prejudice within the school I teach and have been discouraged by the continuing lack of insight of people for the need to work to change their attitudes about race, sexual orientation, and religion.  But now, after hearing this speech, I am ready to head back into battle and risk it all to bring for some change.

Thanks for sharing.


All I can say is Amen
The fight for equality is not always glamarous nor should it be.

It is alll about having the will and the vision to keep pressing forward even when you seem like the only one pressing forward.


It's amazing John Lewis still fights on for Human Rights
He is an ally who commands respect from those who want to seperate the struggles of Civil Rights into different factions, similar to Andrew Young.

btw Kate and you clean up really sharp, your dress is gorgeous.

"race, taste. and History finally overcome....and you ain't there"
by Tony Kushner


Is it disinterest or fear ?
I think LGBT blogs provide a galvanizing and learning experience for the community, and blog owners sure do their part in showing up and challenging the status quo.  I am thinking of you and brave people like Lane Hudson speaking out at Netroots.  
However, other than blog owners, bloggers do a lot of posting during the week and very little on the weekends.  What does that say ?  That activism is only a 9 to 5 job ?  Most bloggers don't use their first and last names, another sign that there may be fear of being discovered by their business or religious associates, or personally attacked by other unknown cyber enemies.  Julian Bond of the NAACP said we must come out, even if means standing up in your family church and declaring "I'm as good as you".  
Coming out at all levels, especially on blogs is very important because to take responsibility for your words or mistakes is how we grow and learn as a community.

Same-Sex Marriage is good for the economy.

support
Melissa Harris-Lacewell is another outspoken African American supporter of full equality for LGBT people.  In fact, according to MHL, the Southern Christian Leadership Conference's failure to support marriage equality renders them unfit to call themselves a civil rights organization.

http://www.thenation.com/blogs...

"In my view, the failure of the SCLC as a national organization to defend the dignity and equality of LGBT families disqualifies it as a civil rights organization.

The SCLC cloaks its support for inequality in religious rhetoric. I often hear the argument that religious African Americans are somehow required to be homophobic and to oppose marriage equality because of their deep commitment to Christian doctrine, practice, and belief. But this ignores that the primary distinguishing characteristic of African American Christianity is its rejection of oppressive biblical interpretation in favor of embracing a liberating and loving God. White enslavers used substantial biblical evidence to assert that God condoned slavery and required their meek submission to it."-Melissa Harris-Lacewell


Great piece... great pics! (and they post as thumbanils on fb!)...

Such an electrifying report. 

So right, ... so don't just sit, do.

Here is how Catholics support Marriage Equality in Maine.

http://tinyurl.com/la3hsx
"Jack and Rose Dougherty went to St. Rafael's Church in Kittery that same Sunday, armed with petitions spearheaded by Catholics for Marriage Equality. They also put a note in the basket during the second collection stating they did not support the church's action. Six other parishioners found them after Mass and signed the petition, said Jack Dougherty, people who "had called to offer support, and said, 'We're behind you on this. We think you're right.'"

.... and these are Straight Allies Folks... Where are you all?

The March in coming up. Kind of too nebulous a goal, but a good way to connect!

In WEHO they are collecting articles "  From Your Closet" for a huge Garage Sale for $$ to support the Repeal H8 campaign.

How about Bake Sale... whatever, make a plan to collect $$ and send it somewhere.

If you just have online time... Join the 53,000 plus of us on Change.Org.

.....etc, etc etc. (as the King would say)

It's the Hammer of JUSTICE,
It's the Bell of FREEDOM,
It's the Song about LOVE between,
my Brothers and my Sisters
...All over this Land.


Thank you, Pam
Watching this video was indeed a pleasure. What a moment it must have been for you and Kate to meet him!

BTW, you both look FABULOUS.

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we were both in disbelief
as we went home that night. We just couldn't 1) believe we sat and heard the message so many need to hear, and 2) that Rep. Lewis patiently waited to speak with each person who approached him to thank him, not just shake their hand.

That's why I spent two hours after the gala processing the video to share what he said.


[ Parent ]
Pam...
You asked a couple of meaningful questions that have a few simple answers.

Q) Why aren't people getting involved and taking action?

A (Part I) Simply put, on a very basic level, most LGBT folks are not suffering. Its as simple as that. Its one of the biggest differences between the civil rights movement and LGBT activism. During the civil rights movement, people suffered and I mean really suffered and struggled. Not only did they struggle and suffer, but the suffering was nearly universal. There was no escaping being black. There was no hiding or being comfortable in your isolated enclaves. The fight for civil rights was on a basic level a life or death fight. It impacted your ability to work, to vote to shop to do the things in life that most people take for granted. It did not matter how much education you had or what you did for a living...everyone suffered. A large portion of LGBT folks do not have that problem. Most of what they encounter on a day to day basis is at worst an annoyance.

(Part II) as a consequence of Part I, even many LGBT rights organizations are poorly run and have no idea how to use their resources. I recently had a talk with someone involved with Equality Illinois. I was shocked at the appalling lack of engagement that the organization has with the community. Do you know that they use volunteers for....fundraising and fundraising only. They do not mobilize people politically or get them to really take action. They get lobbyists and paid professionals and their paid staff (4 people) to do the real political and advocacy work. Not only that, but there are people within the org that think that their best strategy is to focus on professional assistance rather than grass roots work. I've heard the same comment about other LGBT organizations. Thus when people volunteer, expecting to actually do advocacy or political foot work, they rapidly lose interest because all they are asked to do is work on fundraisers. That is totally FUBAR.

(PartIII) Asking people to come out an be public is all well and good if when the people that come out have somewhere to go. After all, in many ways, you are asking people to give up the relative safety of their families/community for a political objective. What happens when those people come out and realise that they no longer have a support network and that they are cast adrift even in the gay community? You are asking people to in effect become a community of one, fight the good fight, and learn to deal with the isolation. How many people do YOU know willing to abandon a community to stand alone?


Off-topic, for a sec
Saw it yesterday on Howard street...young white male in cornrows!

On the other hand, do you really believe that LGBT's aren't suffering? In the gay enclaves (of which Chicago is one) perhaps. How about in the 30 states where you can still get fired for just being gay? How aout LGBTs of all races, really, that have been refused social services? Just because the LGBT movement renders them invisible (to be perfectly honest) doesn't mean that they are not there.

I largely agree with Part II. We do need more groups that do true grassroots organizing. There has long been division in the LGBT community about that...

Part III- I would rather stand alone and face held high and out than to have to face the faux "relative safety of their families/community" And you know what? Eventually, some of my family members did realize where I was coming from.  


[ Parent ]
You miss understand me...
I did not say that NO LGBT people were suffering. There clearly are (and the rise in hate crimes is evidence of that).

What I'm saying is that by and large the LGBT Community (TM) is not suffering. The people in the best position to make a difference are not suffering. Material suffering is a HUGE incentive to action. This is especially the case when you need the help of people with resources.

Going back to the civil rights movement, everyone, regardless of where they were on the educational or socioeconomic ladder, were experienceing some pretty severe material hardships. In essense, you could not charm/buy your way out of being black. Even famous black performers, who did fairly well forthemselves, could not stay in certain hotels in Vegas, or eat in certain restaruants. They could not even avail themselves of the ammenities of the venues where they performed. Thus in an important sense, everyone was in it together.

People with resources, and limited access had just as much incentive to take action as those with nothing. Thus the teacher, lawyer, doctor faced the hoses and dogs right along with the steel workers, waitresses, maids, carpenters, and cooks.

There is very little of that in today's LGBT community. A gay white guy living on the Northside of Chicago, has few common experiences that a gay black guy living on the Southside. A Lesbian making her mark in DC or NYC will not experience many of the same obstacles as one in small town Utah or Mississippi. (Trans folks get screwed from coast to coast so there might be more universal solidarity there)


[ Parent ]
It depends on what you call the "LGBT community"
I probably have few common experiences with a gay white guy that lives in Oklahoma or Idaho. By and large, it's pretty safe for me to be out.

I'm trying to avoid your comparison to the black civil rights movement because it can easily slide into the Oppression Olympics which I so detest. Far better, instead, to focus on the exclusive nature of LGBT suffering.

As far as the solidarity, that's always been true of LGBT communities. Even Magnus Hirschfeld noticed in 1927 that gay communities seem to have a very difficult time in building coalitions for "basic rights." So that aspect that you note is nothing new at all.


[ Parent ]
AIDS was a great leveler in the gay community
It hit every economic level, every color, every ethnicity every religion.
It also was the factor which finally broke the icey relations between many lesbians and many gay men.

"race, taste. and History finally overcome....and you ain't there"
by Tony Kushner


[ Parent ]
You know, DADT/the gays in the military issue
is a great leveler also.

I'm reading Randy Shilts "Conduct Unbecoming" and that, too, hit the gay community in the military at every possible level. Of course, when the issue was both gays in the military and AIDS.

Strange. the military seems to be the other place where there seems to be cohesiveness among economic and racial lines.  


[ Parent ]
That also helped with bridging gay and lesbian factions
i knew several lesbians in the reserves and active duty, and only one man in service

"race, taste. and History finally overcome....and you ain't there"
by Tony Kushner


[ Parent ]
actually gay men could push harder than the women in the military on DADT


"race, taste. and History finally overcome....and you ain't there"
by Tony Kushner


[ Parent ]
Another thing..."LGBT suffering"
really is an internal thing. That's not to say that black struggling wasn't internal (indeed, I think most of it nowadays of it is).

Now it may not be the material struggle that is true for many African Americans, I will give you that. The suffering does take on a largely internal form (and if you're trans, have HIV, been subjected to an anti-gay reparative therapy (and I am astonished at the number of guys that I've met that have tried that!).

Just because LGBT suffering doesn't happen along the lines as AA suffering, for example, is no reason to be so casually dismissive of it.


[ Parent ]
that's so relative
After all, in many ways, you are asking people to give up the relative safety of their families/community for a political objective. What happens when those people come out and realise that they no longer have a support network and that they are cast adrift even in the gay community? You are asking people to in effect become a community of one, fight the good fight, and learn to deal with the isolation. How many people do YOU know willing to abandon a community to stand alone?

A lot of the suffering is without a true basis in fact. I believe many relatives, even religious ones, will not outright reject the closeted person. Some will, but most today have to go through a mourning period of not knowing who their child is/was and reconciling that. It's natural. But look at the pain caused by the continued hiding in the closet and attending church where the damnation from the pulpit is endless. NO ONE has been sorry for coming out of the closet.

What is true is that the racism/disinterest/ill-at-ease/religion-bashing portions of the out white LGBT community is still very hostile to POC in the LGBT community. As I have said before, nothing will change as long as we socially self-segregate and show basic interest in those who are different be it color or culture. People simply take the comfortable easy way out than do the hard work of building alliances to fight the real enemy -- the professional anti-gays.


[ Parent ]
Sometimes the outreach is simply living openly
Whether it feels like it or not, and whether it seems glacially slow, those brave POC who are openly LGBT influence younger emerging LGBTs in ways you may never hear about. You show them not that living openly is EASY, you show them it's POSSIBLE.

"race, taste. and History finally overcome....and you ain't there"
by Tony Kushner


I know the focus is Alabama Equality
But regardless of your race, ethnicity, disability, gender identity....it's NEVER been easy being openly queer.
I have friends and ex's who are all ethnicities, in many regions of America, most religions...and their families and employers react differently in half the cases,(at least half.) While many parents grieve the life they imagined for their child,but reconcile within months, while many parents admit later they KNEW but didn't want it to be true...(they hoped.) Some won't ever come around, sometimes some of the family members do and others don't. Sometimes you are thrown out on the street at 15 yo with nothing but the shirt on your back, to survive any way you can.
Boston Catholic boys didn't have it easy coming out, Mormon kids don't have it easy being out, Orthodox Jews can be as anti-gay as the WORST employer you could imagine, or as totally accepting as the most progressive companies.

"race, taste. and History finally overcome....and you ain't there"
by Tony Kushner


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